Did you know that your outer need to control is holding an iron grip on all of your inner development, wherein you are not allowing yourself to truly create what you want? 

All people, more or less, have the need to control within their finances, health and relationships.  Some of us have an overzealous need to control that can do harm to these important areas within our lives.  How do you find out if you have these control needs?

Take a look at your current situation in for example, your finances your health and your relationships.  If they are not in balance, as in 99 out of 100 cases, it is a control need that hides an internal reason for your extraneous symptoms.

Say, for example, that you have poor control of your finances and try to get balance and control of it through many outside actions.  Unfortunately, your financial situation only gets worse and worse, without you knowing why.  The key now is to find the internal reason that often is deeply concealed within your subconscious.  When you figure out the reason for your poor financial situation, the need to control is gone and you can now do the extraneous action with extraordinary results. 

Three tips to rid yourself of the need to control:

1. Figure out where you have extraneous symptoms that you know you cannot solve
2. Look deep within to find the inner reason for your problem.  You will know when you have found it for it is the painful feeling that lies there and hurts the most, that you have never dared look for earlier
3. Let the negative feelings come to the surface so that they cannot control you from deep within.  Now you are free to create what you want within that area.  You are now released. 

Good luck with the exercise. 

When you have got rid of the need to control, you can start working with your outer goals. To do this, follow these steps:

1.       Perform a reality check and find out where you are right now with you finances, relationships and health

2.      Are you happy with the results you have accomplished so far, i.e. where you are right now? If not, define your goals for each area and write those down as detailed as possible with a due date for each goal

3.      If necessary, break down the goals into sub-goals with due dates for the sub-goals

4.      Define an action plan with the steps necessary for you to take to reach each goal and sub-goal

5.      Take action

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you ever thought of how some people make the most out of life, while others simply drag their feet?  To truly create power and success, you really need to know what you want to achieve.  You should really give this a lot of deep thought and look within yourself and ask yourself honestly what it is that you want out of life.

Behind every idea and success, there always lies a lot of work to be done even though we do not see it in the end result.  Seldom do we actually know all of the effort and hard work a very successful person has put forth to become the successful person that they are today. 

For example, perhaps you have had a boss in your past at your place of work whom was highly successful.  Chances are very good that he or she had to work very hard for years to get where he or she is now.  It does not come overnight.

What idea or dream do you have that you would like to come true?  Have you decided to give it a chance?  Many of us have had grand dreams at some point in our lives that we had wished for more than anything, but have thought that we simply could not achieve those dreams without even giving them a chance.  We must give our dreams a chance.

Behind every success there often lie many failures.  Is it not time to dare both the successes and failures?  When you are ready to do both of these, you are ready to create the future that you deserve. We should not fear failing as it only stops us from even attempting to make our dreams reality.  So take the chance, and stare your fear in the face; it will be worth it in the end.

Four tips for you who are ready to fail, in order to succeed:

1. Begin working on your dream today
2. Putting off your plans for your dreams is the same as giving up your dream
3. Do not allow anyone to stop your dream (you or someone else)
4. Make sure that you create a plan of action that you cannot back out of when you begin to become afraid of failing

The personal development that you get out of these four steps is probably the biggest boost you can give yourself in your life.  You can most certainly get the most out of your life by beating the fear of failing and not letting anyone stop you from achieving your dream.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

You can have everything in place with the right education, job, background, etc. But if you do not have good self-esteem, you are not getting the success you deserve, writes success coach Hans Thorn. 

We have looked at many different aspects in acquiring success.  But if you do not get your self-esteem in place to obtain everything else in the world, you will not be really satisfied.

How do we accomplish this?  In order to understand what self-esteem does, we must understand what self-esteem is.  The best way to do this is to compare self-esteem with self-confidence.

Do you know the difference? When you understand what the difference is, you can also achieve anything at all, because you can differentiate between the two. Self-confidence according to me, is that value you make of the surrounding world on what you do. When you create a lot of success within business, sports or something else and become recognized for this, the chances are good that you will develop good self-confidence.

Self-esteem on the other hand is your internal value of yourself irrespective of what the surrounding world thinks. You can have enormous success outwardly or not get any recognition whatsoever, but your self-esteem is intact.  Do you see the difference?

Let us take an example:  You have Sam who is the top executive at a leading company in the IT field.  All is going well and Sams self-confidence is high.  Suddenly the market collapses and Sam is fired.  Depending on what Sam has for fundamental values about himself (self-esteem), his behavior returns to the basics (self-esteem).  With poor self-esteem, Sam collapses and we never hear from him again.  With good self-esteem, perhaps Sam takes a half of a year off and comes back later, stronger than ever.  Certainly, you have seen both types of people?

Can you develop your self-esteem so that you do not become broken when your self-confidence gives way?  Of course!  It is simple but it is not easy.   

What can a person do?

1. Create a fundamental security that is not based on extraneous results
2. Realize what it is and  develop it
3. With this foundation you will be on the path to the success that you want
4. Now you have both self-esteem and self-confidence 

As mentioned, it is simple, but not easy. Therefore many different directions have emerged on how to develop your self-esteem.  It can be anything at all from yoga to meditation to coaching.  Find the way that passes you best.  

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you ever thought, if you had better self-confidence or self-esteem, that everything would be possible? With enhanced self-esteem and self-confidence, everything is possible!

Then you would be able to realize everything you are dreaming of regarding improving your finances, health and relationships. It is actually true that people with good self-esteem often succeed in life better than others.

What does that depend on?

In order to understand why, then we need to grasp what self-confidence is, what self-esteem is, and the difference between these.

Self-confidence is what you display to other people in the forms of real results with job, career, finances, appearance, etc. Your conscience judgment of what you have accomplished increases or decreases your self-confidence. By obtaining the things you think are fantastic; it creates a certain status for you, increasing your self-confidence.

Self-esteem is an inner unconscious judgment of yourself that reflects your emotional and spiritual balance and presence. Self-esteem is built when you are honest with yourself and your feelings, regardless of external circumstances. It means that you are doing what you really want with your life, and therefore you feel secure and happy with your life.

Many people have good self-confidence, but bad self-esteem, which means that they have accomplished much outer success, but know that they are really not where they want to be in their lives. These individuals can be deeply unhappy; although it appears that they have everything. Look at the vast majority of pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies whom fall under this category.

Then you have those who have a good self-esteem, but bad self-confidence. They can be that unknown artist or environmental activist, who feels deep inside that they are doing right with their lives, but the frustration that they can not get their message out to a greater audience, makes it so they will never experience good self-confidence.

The ideal is of course, to have a balance between good self-confidence and good self-esteem. There you have a person in balance whom succeeds outwardly, but whom also has balance inside themselves. There you can count in certain pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies. But since they have balance within themselves, you can see and feel that this success is authentic on all levels. But keep in mind that good self-confidence comes and goes, while good self-esteem is an internal decision about what you do with your life, which exists as long as you are honest with yourself.

How can you get better self-confidence and self-esteem?

Here are seven ways to go about this:

1. Live the life you actually want to have, so as to increase your self-esteem
2. See to it that you personally decide over your life, which increases your self-esteem
3. By being a floor mop for others, it breaks down your self-esteem, Do not accept that!
4. Create success outwardly, so that you strengthen your self-confidence
5. Combine strong self-esteem with strong self-confidence, so that you succeed
6. It is not important where you start; everything can be fixed no matter how hopeless it looks
7. Do not compare yourself with others. Instead, create your own future within (and outside) yourself

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

In previous articles I have defined how to set goals. In this article I will outline how to set up a strong action plan which will help you to achieve the goals you have set up.

To be able to set up an action plan we need a strong goal and a strong will to achieve it. Without a strong will it is impossible to reach any goal whatsoever. A lot of people set up goals and get very disappointed when they do not achieve them. Image a NHL team who has set up the goal to win Stanley Cup, but do not show on at the hockey arena for playing the games. Do you thing they will win Stanley Cup?

Unfortunately many people expect they will increase their sales, build up their customer list or get better finances without doing something. They get disappointed in themselves or in others and give up their goal and vision before they actually have given it a shot.  The key to improving your results is to create a strong action plan that is related to your goals and vision, and to stick to the plan and perform the necessary activities.

What to start with?

1. Set a date when the goal shall be achieved (deadline)
2. Find out what activities you need to carry out to achieve the goal
3. Break down the action plan from an overall level to detailed level. Start with what needs to happen during a year, then per month and per week.
4. For each weekly planning you shall now break down this to six daily activities you need to carry out to reach your goal
5. Execute the six daily activities before you do anything else each day
6. If you follow this formula you have created a lot of spare time for other things in life

When breaking down the week into daily activities, it can look like this.

Monday

1.       Call an existing customer

2.      Call a potential customer (lead)

3.      Make a sale to a customer

4.      Call 10 cold calls

5.      Work on personal development 30 minutes

6.      Perform a presentation (e.g. at a seminar or to somebody)

Summarize your activities at the end of each day to make sure all of them are executed. If you do this the right way, you will create habits that are more efficient and successful.

Example: Goal: To have revenue of at least $50,000 per month before December 31: st 2008. Identify what activities are necessary to achieve that goal. What needs to be done during the year, per month, per week and per day? Write everything down in a structural way and you have started setting up a strong action plan. Make sure you follow the plan and adjust it when necessary.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com