Did you know that your outer need to control is holding an iron grip on all of your inner development, wherein you are not allowing yourself to truly create what you want? 

All people, more or less, have the need to control within their finances, health and relationships.  Some of us have an overzealous need to control that can do harm to these important areas within our lives.  How do you find out if you have these control needs?

Take a look at your current situation in for example, your finances your health and your relationships.  If they are not in balance, as in 99 out of 100 cases, it is a control need that hides an internal reason for your extraneous symptoms.

Say, for example, that you have poor control of your finances and try to get balance and control of it through many outside actions.  Unfortunately, your financial situation only gets worse and worse, without you knowing why.  The key now is to find the internal reason that often is deeply concealed within your subconscious.  When you figure out the reason for your poor financial situation, the need to control is gone and you can now do the extraneous action with extraordinary results. 

Three tips to rid yourself of the need to control:

1. Figure out where you have extraneous symptoms that you know you cannot solve
2. Look deep within to find the inner reason for your problem.  You will know when you have found it for it is the painful feeling that lies there and hurts the most, that you have never dared look for earlier
3. Let the negative feelings come to the surface so that they cannot control you from deep within.  Now you are free to create what you want within that area.  You are now released. 

Good luck with the exercise. 

When you have got rid of the need to control, you can start working with your outer goals. To do this, follow these steps:

1.       Perform a reality check and find out where you are right now with you finances, relationships and health

2.      Are you happy with the results you have accomplished so far, i.e. where you are right now? If not, define your goals for each area and write those down as detailed as possible with a due date for each goal

3.      If necessary, break down the goals into sub-goals with due dates for the sub-goals

4.      Define an action plan with the steps necessary for you to take to reach each goal and sub-goal

5.      Take action

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Imagine yourself wakening up every morning full of energy and ready for the challenges of the day. Lots of exciting things are happening and you manage them with success. You turn around the negative to the positive and with the positive you create balance and success within all areas. Would not this be wonderful?

This scenario could be yours, but the question is: Does your life look like this? Most likely most people would like to have a life like this, but the reality for many people is not as positive as the scenario above. A lot of people struggle with bad finances, bad health and bad relationships. How come?

No-one is born with a negative approach or negative thoughts of herself. However, when the years pass by, a lot of people create a negative pattern of thoughts that leads to negative feelings, which always leads to poor results. There is nothing wrong with that and it is pure naturally if you understand the law of cause and effect, where every effect has a cause and every cause has an effect.

The reason for that we think positively or negatively about ourselves and what we can accomplish is to a large extent shaped of what we have seen, experienced and heard as a child. If you have grown up surrounded by harmony, the chances that you have life balance are greater than what you would have had if you had grown up under tougher circumstances. Maybe it sounds unfair, and maybe it is, but you cannot change the past.

However, you can change what you think and feel about yourself now. What has been programmed in your past can be replaced with a new program where you get positive results, all according to the law of cause and effect.

How is this done? The first thing we need to do is to let go of the emotional connection to what causes poor results. To let go of everything that is negative and forgive those who might have done this. Not so much for their sake as for you to be able to be free from the strong bounds that creates your unwished results.

When you then feel free and released from the negative, it is time to program your brain with your dream scenario with assistance of new messages, for example:

1. I love myself
2. I am running a successful business
3. I have many excellent relationships

Read your sentences 10 times each morning and evening during three weeks and continue thereafter with new positive sentences that you want to experience. This will become you new cause and the results will be positive and totally different from your previous results.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you ever thought of how you can create the life you want? Maybe you have a number of different dreams you would like to realize, but you think they are impossible to achieve. Then I have good news for you. Nothing is impossible if only the will and understanding are large enough for how you shall achieve what you dream about.

The difference between a multi millionaire and a poor person might seem to be huge, but the big difference is that the rich person has the consciousness to make money while the poor man has the consciousness to make no money at all.

Imagine if one could teach everybody how to make a consciousness of good finances, health and relationships instead of the dejected feeling that many people carry around. I mean that this is possible. The thing that differentiates us from each other is our inner images we carry around in our unconsciousness. These inner images of success or failure decide what kind of decisions we take and what results we get.  

What kind of inner images do you carry around? Make an analysis of your present situation and your inner images, when it comes to your finances, health and relationships. These are the images that control your life, in the same way as your software programs control your computer and what it can do. Are these the images you want? Would you rather replace your programs? Just like on a computer you can add programs that you use, and delete or remove programs that you focus less on or do not use at all.

What kind of images do you want to have in your data bank when it comes to finances, health and relationships? Write them down and focus on what you do want to have.  Remember to live with these images like they are happening right now, as in present mode. Sooner or later the result you want will be created outwards. A positive image creates a positive result, while a negative image creates a negative result.

You decide how conscious and successful you will be. You are the one who decide what programs your computers shall have and what kind of result they shall generate. If you apply this technique you can create the life you want!

Do you know that almost all people create their life around their job and the salary they get from that? Why not apply another approach? Start with defining what kind of life you want to life and create your work around that. When you have identified the life of your dreams, create your inner images of that life and start working with your mental picture of this life. At the same time, write down what steps you need to take to achieve the life of you dreams. The power of both your mental inner images and a practical action plan will take you to your goals even faster.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Today we shall look into what kind of unique qualities you have that can improve your chances in your work or in your business. We all have a number of unique qualities which we often are not aware of. This is often referred to as your USB or Unique Selling Proposition. To really appear as unique in what you do, makes it easier for a potential customer or manager to judge if they want what you offer them or not.

Let us take an example: We have John, 38 years old, who run his own business as a specialist in web design. As you might be aware of, there are plenty of companies offering web design which makes it difficult for the customer to choose who to hire. John contacts me since his business does not perform according to his intentions and plans.

John knows that he is really good at what he does, but he has mediocre sales results. We discuss the problem and I ask John what he does. After a while it is clear for me that John does not differ himself from the rest when he has meetings with potential clients. John does not market himself in a way that differentiates him from his competitors, which makes it impossible for the client to understand why they should choose John instead of any other web design company.

I ask John what makes him so good, what he is really good at within his niche. He says: I am quite good at everything but there is nothing special with me. However, I know that this is not true since I have seen Johns web design work and it is really good. After a lot of discussion and digging into Johns work, we find three things that differentiate John from the rest. These unique things, also called the Unique Selling Proposition (USP), are;

1. John is reliable above the usual. He delivers what he promises and he makes sure the customer is happy with the result.

2. John offers web solutions that the customer himself can administrate, which makes his products very flexible.

3. John has a competence level within his niche that is second to none. All this is offered to a very competitive price.

When John presents his services with these unique qualities it is much easier for the customer to compare Johns offer with the competitors offers, and choose John.

This is a rather simple way to increase your turn around when you know what you are good at, i.e. to market and present your Unique Selling Proposition (USP).

So, my question to you my friend is;

-         What kind of unique qualites do you have that differentiates you from the rest in your work or in you business?

-         Make a list of at least three things that differentiates you from the rest.

-         This is your Unique Selling Proposition/your USP.

Do your customers or your boss know what your USP is? If not, make sure you communicate this when you are marketing and selling your product or service.

At the Olympic Games in Montreal Canada 1976, the difference between the winner of 100 meter and the guy who came last, was 1/10 of a second. The winner had certain unique qualities that differentiated him from the rest. He became famous and his name was printed in the history books for ever, while the other names were forgotten only a couple of weeks after the competition. It is on people with these kinds of values the companies choose to sponsor with millions of dollars. The same apply for customers; they bet their money on the people or companies that stands out from the rest and offers unique values.

Good luck with these exercises and do not forget that you are unique. Use your Unique Selling Proposition (your USP) and improve your chances.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Today we shall take a look at how to choose success in life. Since long I have thought about and been astonished over why some people seem to get everything in place whilst others have to fight so hard to reach success.

My first advice to you is to focus on what you want to achieve in life. What others do or do not do does normally not affect you success, so why focus on them. Avoid all these endless discussions of why this or that person were so lucky and got successful, when it actually ought to be you who should be successful. These kinds of discussions do not lead anywhere except they will drown your own power to act and to create something useful and successful.

Instead, imagine yourself standing in front of two doors and you have to choose which door to enter. One door will let you through if you think positively and really commit yourself to realize your dreams. The other door will let you in if you are prepared to see everything that is negative in life and not go for anything, since there always is a risk that you will fail.

Which door do you choose? I am sure you choose the first door where you create the success in life you want!

Unfortunately, most people choose the other door unconsciously and continue to whine over everything that not is good. There is no room for happiness, goals, visions and success.

If you know that you want to choose the first, positive, door but anyway will end up with going through the other, negative, door, do not give up! There is hope. First of all you have become aware of what you want and what you do not want. You want success in life, right? Since your choices no longer are unconscious you can choose the positive door for all future.

-         What door have you so far in your life entered?

-         What door do you want to enter?

-         What kind of thoughts and dreams will you take with you?

You can make up your mind right now and choose your thoughts and actions. If you wait too long, everything is postponed to the future. Remember that to act now is power here and now, whilst everything that is postponed to the future often creates frustration until it is realized, if ever.

When will you act and what door do you choose? Start your journey towards success in life today!

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Are you using all of your capacity? Are you using it the best way it can be used? If not or if you are unsure, have you ever thought of hiring a coach who can help you get your life and/or your business to take off? What if you already are doing well, but yet only make use of a fraction of your true capacity!

Probably you have built your business or work with help of what you are good at. Maybe you have applied qualities like a good social competence, excellence in closing business deals or something else to get you where you are today. All this is fine, but the question is, are you where you really want to be? Maybe you have totally different dreams and goals you want to achieve, but feel you’re not reaching all way through.

All leading athletics, business managers, pop musicians and other successful people have one thing in common. They have people around them helping them grow and get better at what they are doing and therefore reaching amazing results. The thing is that they did not get the amazing results first and then got themselves a coach, instead the got themselves a coach first who coached them to reach amazing results.

Here are a couple of tips you can use when looking for the right coach for you.

Excercises:

1. What areas of yours do you need to develop to really get your life and/or business to take off. Write down a list over these areas

2. Write down 3-4 names within each area that you know has the competence to support you

3. Contact these people in priority order and ask if they want to coach you

4. Remember to always offer them something to help you (you do not get something for nothing)

5. If the reject the offer, continue to the next person on the list until you have found yourself at least one coach in each area

6. If you do not find anybody, or if you do not want a coach in person, you can use books, CD’s, DVD’s, etc. containing the information you are looking for

7. Another way to find people than can help you is to search for them at different sites on the Internet. For example in different forums relating to the areas you want to find coaches in, or at sites where people offer their services for a fee. Examples of such sites are www.elance.com, www.guru.com, www.getafreelancer.com. These sites are primarily for help within Internet related tasks. The good thing here is that there is a rating system so you can see what other people think of them and their services.

You have to pay for their services but usually you end up in paying for a mentor or coach one way or another, if you do not have a close friend that can help you or if there is a kind of sponsored business accelerators who can help you with your business idea.

Start today to make use of ALL your capacity!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Today we will take a look at your attitude towards yourself and others. Most people have heard that a nice attitude in sales is like a craftsman with his toolbox. Imagine the painter who has all the colors and paint brushes, but doesn’t know how to use them. You can have the best tools, but if you’re lacking a nice attitude you will get the same catastrophic results as the painter without his knowledge. A winning attitude is therefore really important to have if you want to succeed.

What is then attitude? Attitude is the combination of your thoughts, feelings and your action. Deficiency in one of them shows up as the weakest link, which creates a mediocre general result.

Let us use an example: We have Peter who works with sales. He has a strong action outwards, but thinks and feels negatively about himself as a sales person. The potential customer feels his negative attitude and denies the business deal. The customer is more likely drawn to a sales person with a winning attitude, since this makes the customer feel better and strengthens his belief of making the right choice.

Small margins like that makes certain people millionaires while others make nothing when the sell the same service or product. This is caused by your attitude, not luck as some might think.

Can you improve your attitude? Of course! Even if you have a negative attitude today you can change it to a winning attitude. Here are some exercises that can help you to create the winning attitude you want and need.

Exercises:

1. What kind of thoughts of yourself do you have?

2. Are they positive or negative?

3. Make sure you practice thinking positively in all situations

4. What kind of thoughts do you have about your customers (See step 1-3)

5. You can change your feelings with your thoughts. Think positively about something you feel negatively about, and change those feelings with your thoughts.

6. What about your action outwards? Do you act calmly or chaotic?

7. Make sure the customer feels comfortable with you all the time

8. Remember that everything is sales, whether you are a sales person or not. You sell an idea to your partner, manager, colleague, etc.

Write everything down on a piece of paper or on your computer. Writing down things makes them valid and your brain remember what you have written down much better than if you do not write them down. Continue then to write down what you want to change and your action plan, i.e. what you need to do, to change you thoughts and feelings. Follow this plan and you will soon get a winning attitude.

I hope you succeed in creating your own winning attitude!

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you thought of why we have to fight so hard to overcome the negative we carry around and to improve our self-esteem? Why we just cannot start to create success with our thoughts right here and now? This is a very interesting subject that could be discussed in eternity, but I will try to explain it in short.

Imagine your subconscious is like a glass of water that stores all feelings you have experienced, whether they are positive or negative.  You have filled your glass since you were born with negative and positive feeling depending on what you have experienced during your travel in life. Your subconscious also absorbed what kind of feelings your parents carried with them (providing you lived with your parents). It has been discovered that you can carry your social heritage with you from up to six generations back in time, so maybe you understand what you have to deal with here.

If you are coming from a background where everybody was safe and secure in themselves and financially stable, the possibility of you creating the same prerequisites without struggling is bigger. Unfortunately most of us come from totally different backgrounds and your glass of water has got a bad start with a poor self-esteem and poor economy. For most of us the glass is then overfilled with crap. A lot of people try to create success by filling the glass with positive things, but remember, we have mentioned the glass was already full.

The key for those who struggles with their current results, is to once for all admit what you carry with you when it comes to poor economy, health, relationships, etc. Once you have done that you know where you are. Then decide where you want to be by setting goals with a deadline. In order to achieve your goals and create success you must then replace the full glass of crap with new fresh water, i.e. change your habits, thoughts and way of looking at money, health and relationships. Each and every habit takes approximately 3 weeks to break, so depending on what you carry with you the change takes different long time.

This is the biggest reason why rich and successful families remain rich, while people with poor economy, health and relationships most often can see their misery handed down from one generation to the next.

This pattern can be broken by those who are dissatisfied with their situation. Do you want to change your situation? Contact us now for information of how we can help you.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

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What is it that makes certain people successful while others are not? Only 5% of all people are really successful. What do they do that that differs from the rest? In this article you will discover the secrets behind their success.

Have you just like me sometimes been annoyed over why some people are better off, are more successful and succeed with everything they do, while you yourself struggle without getting it to work at all?

I am sure that we all recognize our selves in this situation, maybe not all the time but sometime when things do not get our way. Have you noticed that as long as you have that attitude, you do not get really satisfied with what you are doing. It is like there was an angry little bee inside us that want to get out, but the bee just gets angrier and angrier.  At last it starts hurting really bad and we develop a number of different symptoms of stress, like heart- and cardiac diseases, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.

If I now told you that you can get rid of the inner stress and at the same time get more balanced and successful. Would that be of interest? The only way to solve the annoying feeling inside is to find out the underlying cause. Let us say you are annoyed by people that are managing directors who makes a lot of money. There can be many causes but in this case it depends on your father that was a worker who got very pushed around by his CEO. Would it not be nice to let go of this infinite stress that you carry on?

What you can do is to heal this anger inside you. The secret is to take control over the situation and say to yourself: I release the anger I have inside myself that makes me angry over others that are more successful than I am. In this way you open up you inner soul and release the anger that looses its grip of you. You are now free to create unlimited success.

Good Luck!