You can have everything in place with the right education, job, background, etc. But if you do not have good self-esteem, you are not getting the success you deserve, writes success coach Hans Thorn. 

We have looked at many different aspects in acquiring success.  But if you do not get your self-esteem in place to obtain everything else in the world, you will not be really satisfied.

How do we accomplish this?  In order to understand what self-esteem does, we must understand what self-esteem is.  The best way to do this is to compare self-esteem with self-confidence.

Do you know the difference? When you understand what the difference is, you can also achieve anything at all, because you can differentiate between the two. Self-confidence according to me, is that value you make of the surrounding world on what you do. When you create a lot of success within business, sports or something else and become recognized for this, the chances are good that you will develop good self-confidence.

Self-esteem on the other hand is your internal value of yourself irrespective of what the surrounding world thinks. You can have enormous success outwardly or not get any recognition whatsoever, but your self-esteem is intact.  Do you see the difference?

Let us take an example:  You have Sam who is the top executive at a leading company in the IT field.  All is going well and Sams self-confidence is high.  Suddenly the market collapses and Sam is fired.  Depending on what Sam has for fundamental values about himself (self-esteem), his behavior returns to the basics (self-esteem).  With poor self-esteem, Sam collapses and we never hear from him again.  With good self-esteem, perhaps Sam takes a half of a year off and comes back later, stronger than ever.  Certainly, you have seen both types of people?

Can you develop your self-esteem so that you do not become broken when your self-confidence gives way?  Of course!  It is simple but it is not easy.   

What can a person do?

1. Create a fundamental security that is not based on extraneous results
2. Realize what it is and  develop it
3. With this foundation you will be on the path to the success that you want
4. Now you have both self-esteem and self-confidence 

As mentioned, it is simple, but not easy. Therefore many different directions have emerged on how to develop your self-esteem.  It can be anything at all from yoga to meditation to coaching.  Find the way that passes you best.  

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you ever thought, if you had better self-confidence or self-esteem, that everything would be possible? With enhanced self-esteem and self-confidence, everything is possible!

Then you would be able to realize everything you are dreaming of regarding improving your finances, health and relationships. It is actually true that people with good self-esteem often succeed in life better than others.

What does that depend on?

In order to understand why, then we need to grasp what self-confidence is, what self-esteem is, and the difference between these.

Self-confidence is what you display to other people in the forms of real results with job, career, finances, appearance, etc. Your conscience judgment of what you have accomplished increases or decreases your self-confidence. By obtaining the things you think are fantastic; it creates a certain status for you, increasing your self-confidence.

Self-esteem is an inner unconscious judgment of yourself that reflects your emotional and spiritual balance and presence. Self-esteem is built when you are honest with yourself and your feelings, regardless of external circumstances. It means that you are doing what you really want with your life, and therefore you feel secure and happy with your life.

Many people have good self-confidence, but bad self-esteem, which means that they have accomplished much outer success, but know that they are really not where they want to be in their lives. These individuals can be deeply unhappy; although it appears that they have everything. Look at the vast majority of pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies whom fall under this category.

Then you have those who have a good self-esteem, but bad self-confidence. They can be that unknown artist or environmental activist, who feels deep inside that they are doing right with their lives, but the frustration that they can not get their message out to a greater audience, makes it so they will never experience good self-confidence.

The ideal is of course, to have a balance between good self-confidence and good self-esteem. There you have a person in balance whom succeeds outwardly, but whom also has balance inside themselves. There you can count in certain pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies. But since they have balance within themselves, you can see and feel that this success is authentic on all levels. But keep in mind that good self-confidence comes and goes, while good self-esteem is an internal decision about what you do with your life, which exists as long as you are honest with yourself.

How can you get better self-confidence and self-esteem?

Here are seven ways to go about this:

1. Live the life you actually want to have, so as to increase your self-esteem
2. See to it that you personally decide over your life, which increases your self-esteem
3. By being a floor mop for others, it breaks down your self-esteem, Do not accept that!
4. Create success outwardly, so that you strengthen your self-confidence
5. Combine strong self-esteem with strong self-confidence, so that you succeed
6. It is not important where you start; everything can be fixed no matter how hopeless it looks
7. Do not compare yourself with others. Instead, create your own future within (and outside) yourself

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you thought of why we have to fight so hard to overcome the negative we carry around and to improve our self-esteem? Why we just cannot start to create success with our thoughts right here and now? This is a very interesting subject that could be discussed in eternity, but I will try to explain it in short.

Imagine your subconscious is like a glass of water that stores all feelings you have experienced, whether they are positive or negative.  You have filled your glass since you were born with negative and positive feeling depending on what you have experienced during your travel in life. Your subconscious also absorbed what kind of feelings your parents carried with them (providing you lived with your parents). It has been discovered that you can carry your social heritage with you from up to six generations back in time, so maybe you understand what you have to deal with here.

If you are coming from a background where everybody was safe and secure in themselves and financially stable, the possibility of you creating the same prerequisites without struggling is bigger. Unfortunately most of us come from totally different backgrounds and your glass of water has got a bad start with a poor self-esteem and poor economy. For most of us the glass is then overfilled with crap. A lot of people try to create success by filling the glass with positive things, but remember, we have mentioned the glass was already full.

The key for those who struggles with their current results, is to once for all admit what you carry with you when it comes to poor economy, health, relationships, etc. Once you have done that you know where you are. Then decide where you want to be by setting goals with a deadline. In order to achieve your goals and create success you must then replace the full glass of crap with new fresh water, i.e. change your habits, thoughts and way of looking at money, health and relationships. Each and every habit takes approximately 3 weeks to break, so depending on what you carry with you the change takes different long time.

This is the biggest reason why rich and successful families remain rich, while people with poor economy, health and relationships most often can see their misery handed down from one generation to the next.

This pattern can be broken by those who are dissatisfied with their situation. Do you want to change your situation? Contact us now for information of how we can help you.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

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