To a certain degree, this mindset is taught to us in school, where we are rarely taught to see “outside the box.”  On the other hand, the role models we have in our lives also indirectly fail to teach us how to work toward achieving unlimited success.  Therefore, you must break free of this mindset and realize your true potential.

The Dreaded “F” Word

When it comes to achieving unlimited success, you must eliminate one four-letter “F” word from your vocabulary:  Fear.  If you allow yourself to have fear, it will prevent you from taking the action necessary to gain unlimited success.

Some people who have learned to change their mindset consider the word FEAR to be an acronym meaning False Evidence Appearing Real.  When it comes to changing your mindset, however, it is better to think of the word as meaning False Education Appearing Real.  In other words, you need to realize and to understand that the education you have received – whether it be through formal schooling or through informal and indirect learning by the role models around you – may have provided you with a false sense of reality.  As a result, you have actually learned to fear trying something new because you are afraid of failing.

Putting a New “F” Word in Your Vocabulary

If you wish to achieve unlimited success, you need to replace fear with a new “F” word:  Faith.  Having faith in yourself and in your abilities to succeed helps encourage you to take action.  Yes, it is possible that you will fail in your first attempt.  But, no one that has achieved unlimited success was completely successful the first time he or she tried something new.  And, if you do fail, you will likely discover that failure isn’t quite as bad as you once thought it to be!

Instead of looking at failure as a roadblock, you should consider it to be a learning experience.  From your failure, you will discover what things worked and what things did not work.  As a result, you will have a greater chance of being successful the next time you try.

Don’t Be a Thinker or a Talker – Be a Walker

When it comes to being successful in business or in life, you need to take a long and hard look at yourself and identify your mindset.  Every person on the planet falls into one of three categories:

• Thinkers – people that think about becoming successful
• Talkers – people that talk about becoming successful
• Walkers – people that get out there, get things done, and make it happen

If you are a thinker or a talker, life and all of its potential successes will simply pass you by.  If you are a walker, on the other hand, you won’t just sit around thinking and talking about becoming a success.  Rather, you will start taking action. 

Remember, 3% of the population is responsible for 97% of the success stories in the world.  The difference between the 3% that make it happen and the 97% that do not is that their fear prevents them from moving beyond being a thinker or a talker and becoming a walker.  Don’t let fear hold you back.  Change your mindset and start walking.  Before you know it, unlimited success will be yours for the taking – and you will no longer be just walking, you will be running every step of the way!

Warm Regards,

Hans Thorn
Personal Coaching Online
http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

If you wish to succeed in business, you must take steps to avoid many of the most common business mistakes.  By following these seven tips, you will increase your chances for achieving business success and you will get there in a much shorter period of time.

Tip #1:  Remember That a Business is a Game

The first key to business success is to remember that running a business is just like playing a game – there is no second place.  If you are going to play, you need to play to win.  Don’t treat your business like a hobby and just “dabble” in it.  If you are going to succeed in business, you need to get out there and make it happen every day.

Tip #2:  Stay Focused

If you are going to play the game of business, you must also keep your head in the game at all times.  This means always knowing how your business is performing and what services or products are successful.  Don’t allow yourself to get distracted along the way.

Tip #3:  Believe in Yourself

If you don’t believe in yourself, in your business, and in your ability to achieve business success, no one else will either.  If you hope to get other people on board with you and your business, you need to be confident and project an image of someone that is already successful.  In addition, the more you believe in yourself, the harder you will work at moving forward.  Know that you are worth it and that you can truly make it happen.

Tip #4:  Know the Difference Between Revenue and Profit

One of the most common business mistakes to avoid is confusing revenue for profit.  Revenue is the amount of money your business brings in, while the profit is the amount of money you get to put in your pocket.  A business making $700,000 every year in revenue may only provide you with $30,000 profit.  While $30,000 is a decent wage, it most likely is not the income you dream of when starting your own business.  Therefore, you need to find a business venture that will increase your profits.  Or, you must find a way to decrease your spending so more of that revenue can translate into profit.

Tip #5:  Resist the Urge to Come to the Rescue

Many people starting out a business want to help everyone else around them be successful to.  You need to resist the urge to rescue those around you.  Instead, focus on your own business success.  You cannot succeed in business if you are spending all of your time worrying about whether or not those around you are successful. 

This may sound self-centered and greedy, but it is not.  In fact, by allowing those around you to fail, you give them a chance to learn from their mistakes – just like you did as you were climbing your way to the top.  Remember, most of today’s millionaires have been flat broke at some time or have gone through major changes in their lives.  Although failure is not a pre-requisite to success, it certainly teaches you to no longer fear failure – once you have been to the bottom, you realize that it isn’t as scary as you thought it would be!

Tip #6:  Know Your Numbers

In order to achieve business success, you need to know the numbers – both personally and professionally.  Before getting started with your business, calculated your financial freedom number.  This number is how much money it will take for you to pay all of your expenses.  You have not achieved financial freedom until your income is more than your expenses.  Determine what this number is and set it as the goal for your business profit.  Of course, you can always raise that goal later!

Tip #7:  Invest in Yourself

Another of the business mistakes to avoid is failing to realize the importance in investing in yourself.  Many business owners put a great deal of money and time into their businesses without spending any time improving themselves.  Seek the expertise of coaches, teachers, and mentors so you can become better educated in the world of business.  Remember, your life and your business is a mere function of you.  Invest in yourself and the rest will follow.

Warm Regards,

Hans Thorn
Personal Coaching Online
http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

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Warm Regards,

Hans Thorn
Personal Coaching Online
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2009 is going to be ….. Yes, what will 2009 be for you?
Have you given any thoughts of your vision for 2009? How
will your finances be? Will you have the same economy as
you had 2008? Will it improve or, god forbid, be worse?

What will you do about it? What goals, plans and actions
do you have for making 2009 your best year ever?

What about your health?
What about your relationships?
What about your self confidence?
What about your self esteem?
What about your personal development in other areas?

Take some time and think about this. How would you like
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Remember that it is all the small actions that count. It
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Best of Success in 2009!

Hans Thorn
http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

So many of us try to do everything perfectly to fit in.  Maybe we think that if we do everything perfectly, we will not get criticism and comments from others.  But really we are more or less afraid of being criticized by others, rather than from ourselves, which eats us up from the inside with our struggle to fit in, in all situations.

It is often a feeling that grinds and grinds deeply in the silence that one is not good enough.  You do not notice this feeling in your consciousness as long as you are doing everything perfectly.  But the stress you are carrying, to keep everything under control and doing everything perfectly, creates stress-related conditions that sooner or later will harm your health. 

It is like a ticking bomb, ready to explode at any time.  Often the bomb explodes when you make a mistake on the perfect surface. Bang! All of the hidden feelings, of being not good enough, come up to the surface, after being well hidden, deep within our sub consciousness. 

Suddenly everything collapses and you need outside help to find yourself again.  The key is not that you must rest without finding the reasons why you must be perfect in all situations.  When you have discovered the reasons and created a more positive self-image, the stress symptoms disappear like a leaf in the wind.

Here are four tips to being good enough:

1. Find out what your parents tried or are trying to do to show a perfect image
2. What you see in their perfectionism, that you have acquired through habits, you will pass on the same habits to your children and so on and so on.  What habits do you want to change when you see and hear this?
3. Put yourself in situations where you will be guaranteed to get criticism from yourself or others.  For example, not washing the car or ironing a shirt.
4. When you get that raw feeling that you are not good enough when you do it, just let the feeling increase and let it stay until it does not have power over you anymore.  Do not be afraid of the feeling, for it is not dangerous, although often very uncomfortable.

When you meet the internal and external critics in this way, in the end you will not react with a negative feeling anymore.  You feel you are good enough, regardless of what others think. 

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

All people, more or less, have the need to control within their finances, health and relationships.  Some of us have an overzealous need to control that can do harm to these important areas within our lives.  How do you find out if you have these control needs?

Take a look at your current situation in for example, your finances your health and your relationships.  If they are not in balance, as in 99 out of 100 cases, it is a control need that hides an internal reason for your extraneous symptoms.

Say, for example, that you have poor control of your finances and try to get balance and control of it through many outside actions.  Unfortunately, your financial situation only gets worse and worse, without you knowing why.  The key now is to find the internal reason that often is deeply concealed within your subconscious.  When you figure out the reason for your poor financial situation, the need to control is gone and you can now do the extraneous action with extraordinary results. 

Three tips to rid yourself of the need to control:

1. Figure out where you have extraneous symptoms that you know you cannot solve
2. Look deep within to find the inner reason for your problem.  You will know when you have found it for it is the painful feeling that lies there and hurts the most, that you have never dared look for earlier
3. Let the negative feelings come to the surface so that they cannot control you from deep within.  Now you are free to create what you want within that area.  You are now released. 

Good luck with the exercise. 

When you have got rid of the need to control, you can start working with your outer goals. To do this, follow these steps:

1.       Perform a reality check and find out where you are right now with you finances, relationships and health

2.      Are you happy with the results you have accomplished so far, i.e. where you are right now? If not, define your goals for each area and write those down as detailed as possible with a due date for each goal

3.      If necessary, break down the goals into sub-goals with due dates for the sub-goals

4.      Define an action plan with the steps necessary for you to take to reach each goal and sub-goal

5.      Take action

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Behind every idea and success, there always lies a lot of work to be done even though we do not see it in the end result.  Seldom do we actually know all of the effort and hard work a very successful person has put forth to become the successful person that they are today. 

For example, perhaps you have had a boss in your past at your place of work whom was highly successful.  Chances are very good that he or she had to work very hard for years to get where he or she is now.  It does not come overnight.

What idea or dream do you have that you would like to come true?  Have you decided to give it a chance?  Many of us have had grand dreams at some point in our lives that we had wished for more than anything, but have thought that we simply could not achieve those dreams without even giving them a chance.  We must give our dreams a chance.

Behind every success there often lie many failures.  Is it not time to dare both the successes and failures?  When you are ready to do both of these, you are ready to create the future that you deserve. We should not fear failing as it only stops us from even attempting to make our dreams reality.  So take the chance, and stare your fear in the face; it will be worth it in the end.

Four tips for you who are ready to fail, in order to succeed:

1. Begin working on your dream today
2. Putting off your plans for your dreams is the same as giving up your dream
3. Do not allow anyone to stop your dream (you or someone else)
4. Make sure that you create a plan of action that you cannot back out of when you begin to become afraid of failing

The personal development that you get out of these four steps is probably the biggest boost you can give yourself in your life.  You can most certainly get the most out of your life by beating the fear of failing and not letting anyone stop you from achieving your dream.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

We have looked at many different aspects in acquiring success.  But if you do not get your self-esteem in place to obtain everything else in the world, you will not be really satisfied.

How do we accomplish this?  In order to understand what self-esteem does, we must understand what self-esteem is.  The best way to do this is to compare self-esteem with self-confidence.

Do you know the difference? When you understand what the difference is, you can also achieve anything at all, because you can differentiate between the two. Self-confidence according to me, is that value you make of the surrounding world on what you do. When you create a lot of success within business, sports or something else and become recognized for this, the chances are good that you will develop good self-confidence.

Self-esteem on the other hand is your internal value of yourself irrespective of what the surrounding world thinks. You can have enormous success outwardly or not get any recognition whatsoever, but your self-esteem is intact.  Do you see the difference?

Let us take an example:  You have Sam who is the top executive at a leading company in the IT field.  All is going well and Sams self-confidence is high.  Suddenly the market collapses and Sam is fired.  Depending on what Sam has for fundamental values about himself (self-esteem), his behavior returns to the basics (self-esteem).  With poor self-esteem, Sam collapses and we never hear from him again.  With good self-esteem, perhaps Sam takes a half of a year off and comes back later, stronger than ever.  Certainly, you have seen both types of people?

Can you develop your self-esteem so that you do not become broken when your self-confidence gives way?  Of course!  It is simple but it is not easy.   

What can a person do?

1. Create a fundamental security that is not based on extraneous results
2. Realize what it is and  develop it
3. With this foundation you will be on the path to the success that you want
4. Now you have both self-esteem and self-confidence 

As mentioned, it is simple, but not easy. Therefore many different directions have emerged on how to develop your self-esteem.  It can be anything at all from yoga to meditation to coaching.  Find the way that passes you best.  

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Then you would be able to realize everything you are dreaming of regarding improving your finances, health and relationships. It is actually true that people with good self-esteem often succeed in life better than others.

What does that depend on?

In order to understand why, then we need to grasp what self-confidence is, what self-esteem is, and the difference between these.

Self-confidence is what you display to other people in the forms of real results with job, career, finances, appearance, etc. Your conscience judgment of what you have accomplished increases or decreases your self-confidence. By obtaining the things you think are fantastic; it creates a certain status for you, increasing your self-confidence.

Self-esteem is an inner unconscious judgment of yourself that reflects your emotional and spiritual balance and presence. Self-esteem is built when you are honest with yourself and your feelings, regardless of external circumstances. It means that you are doing what you really want with your life, and therefore you feel secure and happy with your life.

Many people have good self-confidence, but bad self-esteem, which means that they have accomplished much outer success, but know that they are really not where they want to be in their lives. These individuals can be deeply unhappy; although it appears that they have everything. Look at the vast majority of pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies whom fall under this category.

Then you have those who have a good self-esteem, but bad self-confidence. They can be that unknown artist or environmental activist, who feels deep inside that they are doing right with their lives, but the frustration that they can not get their message out to a greater audience, makes it so they will never experience good self-confidence.

The ideal is of course, to have a balance between good self-confidence and good self-esteem. There you have a person in balance whom succeeds outwardly, but whom also has balance inside themselves. There you can count in certain pop stars, elite athletes and heads of companies. But since they have balance within themselves, you can see and feel that this success is authentic on all levels. But keep in mind that good self-confidence comes and goes, while good self-esteem is an internal decision about what you do with your life, which exists as long as you are honest with yourself.

How can you get better self-confidence and self-esteem?

Here are seven ways to go about this:

1. Live the life you actually want to have, so as to increase your self-esteem
2. See to it that you personally decide over your life, which increases your self-esteem
3. By being a floor mop for others, it breaks down your self-esteem, Do not accept that!
4. Create success outwardly, so that you strengthen your self-confidence
5. Combine strong self-esteem with strong self-confidence, so that you succeed
6. It is not important where you start; everything can be fixed no matter how hopeless it looks
7. Do not compare yourself with others. Instead, create your own future within (and outside) yourself

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com