Today we shall take a look at how to choose success in life. Since long I have thought about and been astonished over why some people seem to get everything in place whilst others have to fight so hard to reach success.

My first advice to you is to focus on what you want to achieve in life. What others do or do not do does normally not affect you success, so why focus on them. Avoid all these endless discussions of why this or that person were so lucky and got successful, when it actually ought to be you who should be successful. These kinds of discussions do not lead anywhere except they will drown your own power to act and to create something useful and successful.

Instead, imagine yourself standing in front of two doors and you have to choose which door to enter. One door will let you through if you think positively and really commit yourself to realize your dreams. The other door will let you in if you are prepared to see everything that is negative in life and not go for anything, since there always is a risk that you will fail.

Which door do you choose? I am sure you choose the first door where you create the success in life you want!

Unfortunately, most people choose the other door unconsciously and continue to whine over everything that not is good. There is no room for happiness, goals, visions and success.

If you know that you want to choose the first, positive, door but anyway will end up with going through the other, negative, door, do not give up! There is hope. First of all you have become aware of what you want and what you do not want. You want success in life, right? Since your choices no longer are unconscious you can choose the positive door for all future.

-         What door have you so far in your life entered?

-         What door do you want to enter?

-         What kind of thoughts and dreams will you take with you?

You can make up your mind right now and choose your thoughts and actions. If you wait too long, everything is postponed to the future. Remember that to act now is power here and now, whilst everything that is postponed to the future often creates frustration until it is realized, if ever.

When will you act and what door do you choose? Start your journey towards success in life today!

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Are you using all of your capacity? Are you using it the best way it can be used? If not or if you are unsure, have you ever thought of hiring a coach who can help you get your life and/or your business to take off? What if you already are doing well, but yet only make use of a fraction of your true capacity!

Probably you have built your business or work with help of what you are good at. Maybe you have applied qualities like a good social competence, excellence in closing business deals or something else to get you where you are today. All this is fine, but the question is, are you where you really want to be? Maybe you have totally different dreams and goals you want to achieve, but feel you’re not reaching all way through.

All leading athletics, business managers, pop musicians and other successful people have one thing in common. They have people around them helping them grow and get better at what they are doing and therefore reaching amazing results. The thing is that they did not get the amazing results first and then got themselves a coach, instead the got themselves a coach first who coached them to reach amazing results.

Here are a couple of tips you can use when looking for the right coach for you.

Excercises:

1. What areas of yours do you need to develop to really get your life and/or business to take off. Write down a list over these areas

2. Write down 3-4 names within each area that you know has the competence to support you

3. Contact these people in priority order and ask if they want to coach you

4. Remember to always offer them something to help you (you do not get something for nothing)

5. If the reject the offer, continue to the next person on the list until you have found yourself at least one coach in each area

6. If you do not find anybody, or if you do not want a coach in person, you can use books, CD’s, DVD’s, etc. containing the information you are looking for

7. Another way to find people than can help you is to search for them at different sites on the Internet. For example in different forums relating to the areas you want to find coaches in, or at sites where people offer their services for a fee. Examples of such sites are www.elance.com, www.guru.com, www.getafreelancer.com. These sites are primarily for help within Internet related tasks. The good thing here is that there is a rating system so you can see what other people think of them and their services.

You have to pay for their services but usually you end up in paying for a mentor or coach one way or another, if you do not have a close friend that can help you or if there is a kind of sponsored business accelerators who can help you with your business idea.

Start today to make use of ALL your capacity!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

In this article I will briefly discuss selling and give you some powerful selling tips. Even if you do not think you are selling something and do not need any selling tips, please bear with me and continue to read. Selling is not always what you normally refer to or thinks about.

Have you thought of that whether you work with direct sales or not, you actively work with sales every day in you life. As a child you sold yourself so your parents and friends should like what you said and did. In the teen years you sold yourself and your ideas to create relationships and networks to support you in life.

As an adult you sell yourself to your partner, to your children (if you have any), to get a job or to someone buying your products or services. Nevertheless, many of my clients claim they cannot sell, which you now realize is not true. Obviously everybody sell themselves in someway, although we might not think of it as selling.

Now when you know that everybody sells themselves in some way, we can take a look at what kind of selling that actually works. The classical sales person with a big mouth, pushing the foot inside the door, sells things ON people, does not work in the long run. The key is to offer something that is interesting enough to attract the customer wanting them to buy what you have to offer.  You shall not manipulate people, but instead making them an OFFER, where the customer makes a choice if they want to buy or not. Remember to mention all benefits to the customer. Not the functions of the product or service but how the product or service you sell helps the buyer. What is in it for them? What are the benefits that makes his or hers life better? Rather simple, do you not agree?

How come so many people fail in selling to an extent where they are never satisfied?

Below you will get eight powerful selling tips that can help you next time you sell something.

Powerful Selling Tips:

1. Offer a product or service that already is in demand, or has a great potential to be in demand
2. Do not sell, make an offer instead
3. Offer solutions to the customer, not only a product or service
4. Aim at making the customer satisfied
5. Your compensation is an acknowledgement of how the customer values your product or service
6. If you are not satisfied with the compensation, adjust your offer so your customer is willing to pay more or buy more
7. Remember that your thoughts and feelings about yourself affect your offer attractiveness.
8. Make sure everybody is a winner in the deal

Here comes an extra advice: After you have sold something, congratulate the buyer to what he or she has bought. This strengthens their beliefs of that they made a good decision buying from you.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Do you want to make more money? What if I said to you that it is as easy making $50,000 a month as it is making $5,000 a month. That it is as easy having a happy relationship as an unhappy one. Some of you would argue and say this is impossible; I cannot make more money than what I am already doing, or I have tried everything but I still do not have a happy relationship. However it all has to do with what kind of programming you carry around in your subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind is like a data bank that receives everything you send to it. It does not do any judgement of what is right or wrong. The subconscious executes only what is stored there. With the conscious mind on the other hand, you can to a great extent distinguish what you want to take part of. It was not always like this, as a child you could not by choice choose what should be used in your subconscious data programming.

Your subconscious mind that executes what is given is to a great extent filled with different programs that have been created when you were a child, including programs concerning your finances, your health and your relationships.

You have different results for finances, health and relationships depending on your programming. Let us say you make $5,000 per month, which is a result from your subconscious data program. It keeps a picture of that you can only make $5,000 per month, which probably is entered from the time you were a child (most often unintentionally from your parents).

Let us now say you want to make more money, say $50,000 per month. What you need to do is to replace your old program with a new program giving you pictures of you making that $50,000 a month.

You need to do the same changes to your subconscious data programming if you have an unhappy relationship but want to change that to a happy relationship.

Perform the following exercises to feed your subconscious mind with a new programming. Write everything down.

Excercises:

1. How does your current programming look like?

2. Are you where you want to be?

3. Write down you dream picture of how your program shall look like

4. Set a deadline when you shall achieve your dream

5. Write down everything in present tense

6. Read you dream everyday as if you already has accomplished it

After a while your old picture will disappear and your dream picture will take over. How long time this will take depends on your conviction that you can make this happen.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Imagine yourself creating more and more success in winning partnerships. Would this be of interest for you? I guess it would. I meet a lot of people who has excellent business ideas and they possess all the good qualities for succeeding, however they do not achieve the success they want so bad.

The key is winning partnerships where you create a synergy effect together with someone, or several people, making 1+1+1=10. Let us say you have a business idea within health care and you start marketing this. Nothing happens. Perhaps you need to work with a PR agency, a web designer, a newspaper, etc. to reach out to those you are looking for. Is it better to have 100% of $0 or 80% of $100,000? You and I already know the answer! Despite that, very few choose to share the profits with others. Instead of creating more success they choose to have no profit at all.

Partnerships with other people and companies will strengthen both yourself as a person and your business, if you have one, and create more success. When you shall create a winning partnership it is very important to pick the right partner. This should be someone who can do things better, cheaper or faster than you can and help you reach your goals.  

Most companies that succeed have a number of partners they co-operate with, where all parties benefit from the partnership. However, many companies fail due to the resistance of sharing the profits with others. The question is; which way shall you choose?

If you choose to co-operate it is very useful to have a contract with your business partner that regulates some kind of royalty or commission to your partner, if he/she helps you succeed. This kind of partnership will attract co-operations since your business partner really believes in you succeeding, otherwise he/she would have chosen getting paid a lump sum for his/hers services. Is there a better acknowledgement that you are on the right track, without having to pay anything until you create success?

So, what can you do?

Exercise:

1. Find areas you need to have in your business but don’t have the competence yourself or the time to develop or perform.

2. Find a company or person that has this competence

3. Decide only for business partners where there is a win-win situation

4. Do not postpone this. Contact the person or company already today

5. Evaluate different partners to find the one(s) that best suit you

6. Define what you bring to the table, i.e. what can you do for you partner, and present this to him/her. It can be a piece of the cake, i.e. a percent of the profit when you succeed, but it can also be other services that you can offer the other party. Do not be to humble about your own strengths.

When you have started a partnership, do not to forget to evaluate the situation before and after. Have you created more success with this partner or not? If not, try to find another partner that suits you better.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Today we will take a look at your attitude towards yourself and others. Most people have heard that a nice attitude in sales is like a craftsman with his toolbox. Imagine the painter who has all the colors and paint brushes, but doesn’t know how to use them. You can have the best tools, but if you’re lacking a nice attitude you will get the same catastrophic results as the painter without his knowledge. A winning attitude is therefore really important to have if you want to succeed.

What is then attitude? Attitude is the combination of your thoughts, feelings and your action. Deficiency in one of them shows up as the weakest link, which creates a mediocre general result.

Let us use an example: We have Peter who works with sales. He has a strong action outwards, but thinks and feels negatively about himself as a sales person. The potential customer feels his negative attitude and denies the business deal. The customer is more likely drawn to a sales person with a winning attitude, since this makes the customer feel better and strengthens his belief of making the right choice.

Small margins like that makes certain people millionaires while others make nothing when the sell the same service or product. This is caused by your attitude, not luck as some might think.

Can you improve your attitude? Of course! Even if you have a negative attitude today you can change it to a winning attitude. Here are some exercises that can help you to create the winning attitude you want and need.

Exercises:

1. What kind of thoughts of yourself do you have?

2. Are they positive or negative?

3. Make sure you practice thinking positively in all situations

4. What kind of thoughts do you have about your customers (See step 1-3)

5. You can change your feelings with your thoughts. Think positively about something you feel negatively about, and change those feelings with your thoughts.

6. What about your action outwards? Do you act calmly or chaotic?

7. Make sure the customer feels comfortable with you all the time

8. Remember that everything is sales, whether you are a sales person or not. You sell an idea to your partner, manager, colleague, etc.

Write everything down on a piece of paper or on your computer. Writing down things makes them valid and your brain remember what you have written down much better than if you do not write them down. Continue then to write down what you want to change and your action plan, i.e. what you need to do, to change you thoughts and feelings. Follow this plan and you will soon get a winning attitude.

I hope you succeed in creating your own winning attitude!

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

Have you thought of why we have to fight so hard to overcome the negative we carry around and to improve our self-esteem? Why we just cannot start to create success with our thoughts right here and now? This is a very interesting subject that could be discussed in eternity, but I will try to explain it in short.

Imagine your subconscious is like a glass of water that stores all feelings you have experienced, whether they are positive or negative.  You have filled your glass since you were born with negative and positive feeling depending on what you have experienced during your travel in life. Your subconscious also absorbed what kind of feelings your parents carried with them (providing you lived with your parents). It has been discovered that you can carry your social heritage with you from up to six generations back in time, so maybe you understand what you have to deal with here.

If you are coming from a background where everybody was safe and secure in themselves and financially stable, the possibility of you creating the same prerequisites without struggling is bigger. Unfortunately most of us come from totally different backgrounds and your glass of water has got a bad start with a poor self-esteem and poor economy. For most of us the glass is then overfilled with crap. A lot of people try to create success by filling the glass with positive things, but remember, we have mentioned the glass was already full.

The key for those who struggles with their current results, is to once for all admit what you carry with you when it comes to poor economy, health, relationships, etc. Once you have done that you know where you are. Then decide where you want to be by setting goals with a deadline. In order to achieve your goals and create success you must then replace the full glass of crap with new fresh water, i.e. change your habits, thoughts and way of looking at money, health and relationships. Each and every habit takes approximately 3 weeks to break, so depending on what you carry with you the change takes different long time.

This is the biggest reason why rich and successful families remain rich, while people with poor economy, health and relationships most often can see their misery handed down from one generation to the next.

This pattern can be broken by those who are dissatisfied with their situation. Do you want to change your situation? Contact us now for information of how we can help you.

Good Luck!

Hans Thorn, Success Coach

http://www.personalcoachingonline.com

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What is it that makes certain people successful while others are not? Only 5% of all people are really successful. What do they do that that differs from the rest? In this article you will discover the secrets behind their success.

Have you just like me sometimes been annoyed over why some people are better off, are more successful and succeed with everything they do, while you yourself struggle without getting it to work at all?

I am sure that we all recognize our selves in this situation, maybe not all the time but sometime when things do not get our way. Have you noticed that as long as you have that attitude, you do not get really satisfied with what you are doing. It is like there was an angry little bee inside us that want to get out, but the bee just gets angrier and angrier.  At last it starts hurting really bad and we develop a number of different symptoms of stress, like heart- and cardiac diseases, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.

If I now told you that you can get rid of the inner stress and at the same time get more balanced and successful. Would that be of interest? The only way to solve the annoying feeling inside is to find out the underlying cause. Let us say you are annoyed by people that are managing directors who makes a lot of money. There can be many causes but in this case it depends on your father that was a worker who got very pushed around by his CEO. Would it not be nice to let go of this infinite stress that you carry on?

What you can do is to heal this anger inside you. The secret is to take control over the situation and say to yourself: I release the anger I have inside myself that makes me angry over others that are more successful than I am. In this way you open up you inner soul and release the anger that looses its grip of you. You are now free to create unlimited success.

Good Luck!

Today we will look into the kinds of resistance you can run into when executing your action plan.

Once you have set a goal and started on your way toward reaching it, the real challenge begins.  Most of us have found ourselves in the following position at one time or another: we sit down on Monday morning with the planned calling list and action plan then, suddenly, panic appears just as we’re about to begin working.

There is a rather simple explanation why we often get scared, postpone things or have other reasons not to work on what we’ve committed to do.  It relates to the negative thoughts and actions that are weighing us down.

Let’s look into your current (X) programming - that is, the one that exists in your thoughts, feelings and body language - and how it affects the possibility of reaching your goals.  If you are satisfied with your current results, well then everything is fine and you do not need to read any more of this article.

But if you want to achieve new, more successful results (Y), then you need to remember how your (X) programming was created and understand why it hasn’t completely transformed into a positive (Y) one.

Let’s say you want to achieve a new big goal (Y1), and you have created an action plan and are ready to start on your journey to achieve all of your goals.  Suddenly it seems like everything goes wrong. You feel depressed, sick or dismayed. At this point, most people give up their goals and return to their mediocre (X) programming.

What we must understand is that we are people of habit and most of us are not open to change.  No matter how hard we initially worked on letting go of counterproductive thoughts and replacing them with positive ones, our whole system of feelings, attitudes and body language continues to radiate the (X) programming we started with.  It does everything it can to keep you from making those changes permanent.

But life is always changing, whether we like it or not.  So, why not decide to achieve the goals you are dreaming about no matter what gets in the way?  It can be done.

The only way to obtain a permanent (Y) successful programming is to walk straight through your fears and the excuses that are keeping you from reaching your goals.

It might feel extremely unpleasant for a while, but when you notice that you are starting to achieve your new goals despite that unpleasant feeling, you will have developed yourself even further in order to create even more success.

Remember that success comes when you least expect it, when you are so close to giving up but walk that extra mile anyway.  (Remember that Thomas Edison failed 9,999 times before he succeeded in inventing the light bulb.)

Always keep in mind that there will come a time — it will probably be a happy surprise — when you realize that you have already attained a measure of success and are self-confident about continuing to doing so.   That’s when you’ll realize that you now possess your new (Y) programming.  After that, it’s time to take care of the next challenge and start the process all over again.

So, what does your week look like?

Ø       Do you have new challenges that will make you win big?

Ø       Are you prepared to pay the price to reach success like Edison did?

Ø       Do you want results that by far exceed the usual?

Ø       Are you prepared to walk through your fears?

Ø       Are you prepared to make your dreams come true?

Consider this carefully since there is a need for a certain amount of power and courage to create your dream life.

Assignment:

1.       Identify your fears or excuses and write them down.

2.      Decide to overcome them.

3.      Perform the necessary activities to achieve your goal, even if they are unpleasant.

4.      Don’t give up!

Good Luck!